20 Things I’d Tell My 20-Year Old Self

Millennielle-Birthday-in--Nha-KhanhHappy Birthday To Me!

Today marks another year added to the craziness that is my life, and I couldn’t be more excited! For my birthday, Nha Khanh offered to let me play princess for a day in this stunning dress from their Ready-To-Wear Spring/Summer 2016 collection, and even though it’s definitely a diversion from my usual style, I think a birthday is as good of an occasion as any to play dress up, and even so, I could never stray too far from my sartorial aesthetic… hello, suede leather jacket!

With just a couple years of my 20s left, I’m starting to be a little more reflective about my experiences of the past few years. It’s crazy how quickly time flies, and when it think about it, it’s even crazier to remember all of the things I’ve gone through in just 10 years! Just like any other young adult, I’m still figuring things out along the way, but I thought today would be the perfect opportunity to share 20 things I would tell my 20-year old self… even though I can’t go back in time and change things, hopefully they’ll inspire you!



Trust your process. Life is crazy and unexpected at every single turn, and there’s absolutely no way you’ll ever be in the same place (financially, professionally, emotionally, etc.) as your peers all the time. Spend less time comparing yourself to others, and more time working on yourself… trusting that everything will be okay in the end. Because it will be!


You may never want to admit it, but your parents are always right 


Go to the gym and eat healthy — start taking care of yourself now!


Everything happens for a reason. I know, it sounds so cliché, but it’s true. I’ve tried to turn every experience in my life into a lesson, and it’s really helped me see things differently — even when things didn’t turn out the way I hoped they would.


There’s no easy path to get to where you want to be, and there will always be someone better than you. Keep working hard!


Never apologize for what you feel, and never let anyone invalidate your intuition. Your life and experiences are yours… don’t let someone else rewrite your story.


Traveling is ALWAYS worth the money spent. Bonus points if it’s a solo trip!



That thing you’ve always wanted to to… do it now.  You won’t regret it.


If he (or she) wants to leave, let them. Losing friends and ending relationships is hard, but you know what’s worse? Bending over backwards to keep someone around when they don’t value you.


Invest in yourself and what you believe in. Whether it’s your time or your money, start putting it where your heart is — it’s the most rewarding feeling!


Don’t be afraid to say no or change your mind. But also, don’t be afraid to say YES to new experiences!


Never stop learning!


Quality over quantity is key — especially when it comes to shoes, cocktails, friends… and calories.


You learn a lot about yourself when you’re alone, so always remember to take some “me time” — love yourself, forgive yourself and learn to enjoy your own company.



Navigating post-college friendships will probably be one of the most eye-opening experiences you’ll ever have in your 20s. As you start your journey as an independent adult, you’ll probably realize that your friendships will change… drastically. Know that it’s OK to let people go, especially if they bring unnecessary negative energy to your life.  


Family is everything — even on my shittiest day, I cannot believe how blessed I am to have such an amazing support system in my parents and siblings 


Pursue real happiness over “things”. Material wealth is great to have (who doesn’t like nice things?), but it won’t bring you true happiness.


The right person for you will empower you to be exactly who you are, without needing to be perfect all the time. Drop the act!


Trust your gut. If it feels a little “off” or “too good to be true” it most likely is.


Nobody’s got it all figured out. Just do your best and enjoy the ride! 

I still have a couple more years in my 20s to go, but as I’m starting a brand new journey around the sun today, I’m really grateful to have the opportunity to reflect on how far I’ve come and how EVERY experience I’ve been through — both good and bad — have shaped me into the person I am right now. I’m especially grateful to my family and true friends, who are making my life a more enriching experience every single year… and of course, I’m thankful to YOU for following along right along with me. THANK YOU! xx

Shop Nha Khanh Formal Dresses


wearing: ℅ Nha Khanh SS16 dress  | MANGO jacket

shot by: Udee B.

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  • cassandra ikegbune

    Happy birthday girl!
    All great lessons and I love your dress! I wish you took off the jacket so we can fully appreciate it :D

    • Thanks Cassie! It was a little chilly the morning we shot the dress haha :) but i placed a link in the post, so you can see it in all its glory :)

  • Can I just say that you looked so beautiful!! Happy birthdayyy x

    Lina /

  • You are awesome! beautiful photos and pretty girl. Happy Birthday.

  • maximie

    I’m not much for fashion blogs and ended up here after wanting to see what the Levis Wedgie fit jeans look like on a real person before ordering online. I scrolled down a bit and luckily ended up spending time on this post and sure it was worth it! Great tips&advice, I will definitely save this post in my bookmarks, I’m 26 now and battling with some sort of identity crisis (luckily on the home stretch of it now) and this post couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you for it!

    • thank YOU for reading, maximie, i’m so glad to hear that i helped in whatever little way i could! i know exactly what you mean about the “quarter-life crisis” — i feel like i was kind of going through that when i started blogging a couple years ago. my goal with my blog has always been to make it about more than just fashion… i want to be able to share my personal experiences and connect with girls just like us :) so it means a lot that i was able to do that today! xx

  • Absolutely love this! Amazing tips and you look absolutely incredible. Happy Birthday :) Immy x

  • The images are absolutely stunning, and I love that you included that suede jacket in the wardrobe! The first one especially was glowing :) I’m currently in my mid-twenties and I feel like so much of what you said really resonates with me. A few of them, I need to take, like working out and choosing which calories to take, haha. Happy birthday!

    • Haha, I’m still working on taking my own advice as well :) Thanks Deasy!

  • Rose Lazard

    love this. Happy Birthday!!! Amazing tips,All things I would tell my younger self

  • morgstress

    I’m with you on everything except the notion that your parents are always right. In the years leading up to college, my passions were piano, history, and art. My Dad, whom I love dearly but is NOT a risk taker, drove it into my head that “you can do all that on the side; you go to school for something practical, i.e. computer science.” I wish I had had the guts to say, you know what, I’m going to study what I’m passionate about because if I really care about it, I’ll find a way to live on it. Instead, I’m in my mid-30s with my psychology degree (had a vague notion of getting into HR), working at a corporate job that bores me to death but is “safe.” I keep thinking about going back to school for history, but I’m so far behind at this point that it feels hopeless.

    Meanwhile, one of my best friends loved ballet, to the point that she went to a special high school where half of the day was spent on dance. When she graduated, she skipped going to college and went straight into a company. My Dad always rolled his eyes at her choices (“How is she ever going to find a job?”), but she was a professional ballet dancer for almost 20 years. She toured the world for free, doing what she loved best. Now that she’s retired from dance, she works for a very successful internet start-up so her lack of a formal degree isn’t holding her back.

    My point is, love your parents and your family, and know that they have good intentions, but realize that they’re only human too and their choices may not be right for you.

    • Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story — you know what, you’re 100% right!!! When i made that point, i was coming from a very specific personal experience that i had, but i think that over all our parents are just as prone to error as we are.

      I hope you still find a way to still follow your passions, even if it’s not through a full-time job right away! xx

  • belinda

    This is an amazing post. It is truly very touching and inspiring at the same time.
    Thank you :)

  • Such a beautiful post. May I say, I feel super special for number 16 haha!

    You look very pretty!! Happy Belated Bday again :)


  • There are some lessons you need to remember everyday! especially letting go and saying yes!

  • pennyanddash

    Loving the white dress paired with the suede jacket and your tips! I think it is so important as a young woman to just be happy with yourself and not compare yourself to anyone else :)

  • MJ Junior

    I absolutely love this post! Thanks for sharing!